One thing I have struggled with in my life is the complete process of achieving goals. Although, I do have many accomplishments that I am proud of such as earning a college degree, purchasing a house and raising a family. I certainly don’t take these things for granted. I am very grateful for what I have and for where I am in my journey, even though it’s only in its beginning stages. What I am referring to are goals that I have wanted to achieve for a long time, but never actually get around to work on. We all have them. Now that I actually write these words, I am starting to see that perhaps these “goals” are not really goals at all, but rather just wishes. The question I often think about is “where do I go from here?


For starters, one of my goals (just like most people) is to find a career that I am truly happy in. As Confucius says, “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” I have mentioned before that I work as a tech support representative for a large company. The corporate politics, the draining task of trying to satisfy people who always want more, the inconsistencies of the ever-changing business world; these are things that I have never found happiness with and I know that no one really ever truly does. But yet, here I am. Here I am doing this same thing day in and day out year after year. So the question is, where do I go from here?

Another goal of mine is of pay off debt and learn more about finances. I continue reading books and articles on finance and personal development. I have also started reading and listening to many finance and personal development blogs (yes, listen to…thank you Optimal Living Daily for making my commute much easier). As I learn the stories of others, I realize that we are all so much alike. We are all looking for happiness and fulfillment in our lives. We are all looking to improve our finances and achieve our goals. I am certainly not alone, but where do I go from here?

In the beginning of the year, I set a resolution for debt payoff and to better myself by focusing on what I want to achieve. I set a resolution to stop going through the motions of life and start actually living it. Through the everyday battles we face, we tend to forget our goals and what we are working toward. I will admit that lately I have been feeling like “normal” has been defeating me instead of the other way around. Days at work have been rough, unexpected expenses have come up and the daily schedules for my family have changed. It feels as if I am trapped underneath the giant boot of normal that is quickly taking a step down.  Where do I go from here?

During all of this, I was reminded that life is not what happens to us. Life is what we choose to live. Things do happen, situations occur that are out of our control and circumstances change with or without warning. So where do I go from here? I choose to go forward. I choose to deal with my situations head on and make the best decisions I can. I choose to take steps to achieve my goals and get to where I want to be. I may not be in a career that I’m happy in, but I have found joy in writing and posting my work here on Defeating Normal. I may not be debt free, but I have a plan and am making baby steps toward my goal. I am certainly far from perfect, but I work each day to improve. My goal is not perfection. No one is perfect. My goal is to be better today than I was yesterday. There may have been unexpected roadblocks, but setbacks are not permanent.

Making Progress

I may have not achieved all the goals I wanted and I may not be where I thought I would be right now. That’s ok. I am working to get past my struggles of completing goals. I think that many of us tend to believe that if we are not an instant success as soon as we put our mind to something, then we are a failure. I see now that this is far from the truth. I see now that I am not failing, I am going through the trenches of future success. Through these trenches the mud is so thick that I have achieved mini goals that are part of my main objective, but have not noticed until now. But even in the trenches, to get out, I must go forward.

What goals are you working on? What trenches have you gone through? On your path forward, what has been your eye-opening moments? I would love to hear from you in the comments. You can also reach me directly through email at, on my Facebook page or on Twitter @defeatingnormal. Thanks for reading and keep up the work to defeat normal.

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