“Yesterday’s failures are today’s seeds that must be diligently planted to be able to abundantly harvest tomorrow’s success.”
Have you had a point in your life when you feel like the harder you try, the harder you fall? Perhaps you are experiencing this right now. It happens to all of us at some point or another. We have a time in our lives that we feel like the walls are closing in and we are falling into the depths of failure. This has happened to me many times.
A bad day at work turns into a bad month, which then turns into a bad year. The bills get more difficult to keep up with and the things that once made us happy simply just don’t anymore. We may fall into a rut that seems to just keep on going. Hours feel like days and days feel like eternity. Why am I writing all this? It is not to sound dark and demotivating; in fact, it is just the opposite. It is times like these that we need to be lifted up.
A few years ago I injured my back, which required surgery. The recovery was very slow and each day was draining. It was difficult to just get around the house let alone do anything that was actually productive. This was the lowest point in my life. At the time I was a new father and it was next to impossible to raise a daughter when I couldn’t even take care of myself. I felt like such a failure, like I had hit rock bottom.
I distinctly recall one day sitting in my recliner in the living room, watching TV so that I could get my mind off the pain that the meds were not so effectively managing. My daughter, who was almost three years old at the time, came up to me and said “Daddy, please hold me”. In that moment, my heart sank. All I wanted to do was scoop her up, hold her tight and tell her how much I love her. My body was failing me. “I’m sorry sweetie, daddy can’t hold you right now”. These are the words that were forced though my lips even though it was not at all what I wanted to say. I felt like I was failing as a father.
Being out of work for a few months, the bills were piling up, the medical bills were coming in and everything started to get overwhelming. During this time my wife was working long days, coming home to spend long nights taking care of our small family. I could see the stress in her eyes when she would come through the door after work. Although I was the one recovering from surgery, I could see that I was not the only one who was feeling pain. Not being able to do much physically to help the situation, I felt like I was a failing husband.
So why am I telling you all this? Although it took a few months, the day came when my spirits we lifted. The day came when I had regained my strength and I was active again; I was exercising, playing with my child, working with my wife to complete the daily tasks around the house and having fun again. I finally was succeeding at things that I previously took for granted. Although this was a dark time in my life when I was feeling my lowest, it is not a time that I want to forget.
I certainly did not realize it at the time, but these failures were my seeds to success. Today I have a much better appreciation for my health and physical ability. I have a better appreciation for the simple things that at one point in time I could not do. Having this appreciation in and of itself is such a huge success.
Sometimes we get so caught up in life that we forget what we have. We try so hard to accomplish our goals that we ignore the journey and only focus on the end result. The success is in the journey itself, not at the end of it. If we cannot recognize the things we already have, we are indeed failing to succeed. When we fail, sometimes we need to treat the failure as a seed. We need to water and nurture it so that we can learn from it and then watch it grow. If we always succeed at what we set out to do, we never learn to appreciate or grow.